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Happy International Women’s Day from Solo Dove Public Relations

8 Mar

Happy International Women’s Day everyone. Can you believe it is the 100th year celebration of the day? Just amazing.

As a woman I feel that it is important that we continue to celebrate women and as women we need to encourage one another. From working with client Jacquelyn Aluotto and I have come to see that the issues facing women today are similar to the issues they were facing 10, 20, 30 years ago. How can this be? We need to make additional improvements. There are still many “first” that women can accomplish.

I am encouraged when I see women supporting one another. I am encouraged when I see men young and old making an effort to uplift women.

I hope that you take this day to support and celebrate all women. Since this is an international celebration take the time out to meet someone who doesn’t necessarily look like you or is from the same place. Learn something new, the world is bigger than what you see on your street.

~Solo Dove PR~


A WORLD THAT HAS LOST HUMANITY IS A WORLD AT WAR— International Women’s Day Message from RBRW Creator Jacquelyn Aluotto

8 Mar

Happy International Women’s Day:
This is a very personal and honest blog for me. People always ask me why I make documentaries on the issues I do and where my passion comes from. I never really answer all the aspects of that question. I always say because I want to make a difference in the world and help people. Help people break the cycle of abuse, violence, poverty, ignorance etc… All of this is true but the reason behind that is as a young girl I watched my young Mom never really love herself and see how wonderful she is because she was abused. I watch my Mom now and sometimes I get frustrated as to how she doesn’t know what a kind and special, beautiful person she is. My Mom has endured so much and she could have been a bitter hateful woman but instead she is so compassionate. She is just only hard on herself.  She is her worst enemy. As a daughter of course this has always hurt me because I love my mom so much and her happiness is important to me. I have always wondered if people were not abused what they would turn out to be. Or if abused victims had received the proper help, care, and counseling how they could become empowered.

I have learnt through my films and my life with my family and being an activist that helping is healing. Well at least it is for me and so many others. I have learnt, seen, and felt; that in the shelters and safe havens that I film in that if you give victims the proper care, tools, counseling, and support people will become empowered and free. Free from a mind that they deserve nothing and cannot escape a past that haunts them: that there is so much more of the world for them. That love really does exist and being beaten on emotionally and physically amongst other things is not love and not their fault: that they and we all deserve as human not to exist but to live.  To thrive, laugh, cry, and cherish life because it is a gift. We are all a gift.
I have learnt that I feel comfortable in shelters with these women and children. I admire that they are trying to survive in a world that for some reason is afraid of the power they posses and has done everything to strip them of it and yet they are still here and still trying.  They are still strong, beautiful, and powerful. I sit in awe and want to cry sometimes when the children and teens talk about being raped and beaten. That a 10 year old little girl can become a drug addict to numb herself because she was being prostituted out since she was four years old. But yet she will give me a picture she has colored because she wants me to have a gift. After all they have been through they still have so much love in them. It amazes me. It is my inspiration and I hope it always is.  What seems to be the worst for these victims is no one believes them or validates what has happened to them except these Safe Havens. Shelters and Safe Havens are crucial to our existence. I think what has happened to this world is pure INSANITY. Civilization happened a long time ago so why are we still acting like savages. One reason is no one does validate breaking a cycle so it will stop from the next generation. Instead we have perpetuated one.
 I have learned of filming, volunteering and being in shelters and safe havens for ten years. We can all break the cycle of violence, abuse, ignorance, rape etc. It is not easy but with love, support and the proper tools it is happening all over the world and it is beautiful. It inspires me every day. It is what keeps me going as a human activist to evoke change. To demand it. Humanity is the most important thing in this world. Without it we will not survive.

I ask everyone not just women because the men in my life are amazing and show me love every day. Give love and compassion to one another. Love is the greatest gift we can give to each other and ourselves. In this world we value things over people. It is so sad and we are cheating ourselves. My fiancés does not have a lot of money but the love he shows me is priceless and I would not give that up for all the money in the world. When you have unconditional love it restores your soul. My wish is that we can all find that love for each other and ourselves. Helping is healing and that passion in me is my prayer every day. I hope more and more people join me on this journey.


International Women’s Day Message from RBRW

8 Mar

“When women thrive, all of society benefits, and succeeding generations are given a better start in life,” by Kofi Annan. Seventh secretary-general of the United Nations, 2001 Nobel Peace Prize Today is the launch of our new RBRW website and it coincides with quite a significant day. 100 Years ago, March 19, 1911, marked the first ever International Women’s Day. It was initiated by Claire Zetkin as a result of the second International Conference of Working Women held in Copenhagen with prominent Women leaders of the time. In 1913, the date was changed to March 8 and ever since Women across the world have been celebrating and embracing the advancements of women within society and their contributions to the world; making it a more livable, and more opportunistic place to be.
Today there will be high-profile women honored for their commitment, talents and contributions to different causes socially and internationally. Amongst women awarded will also be regular women too. Some women possibly will go about today and have no idea that International Women’s Day exists or is even happening; multi tasking family commitments and/or work…just another day. Unfortunately there will also be women who today are just trying to survive for whatever reason and make ends meet. This diverse group is the reality that makes up the ‘WOMEN’ of our world.
International Women’s Day should be a day where every woman across the world is celebrated for who they are and what they do no matter how big or how small their contribution or its impact on the world. The work you do as a woman to make your immediate place a better place to live needs to be acknowledged. For all women in the world, wherever you are, and whatever you are doing today on this the 100th International Women’s Day, please know this: You are valuable and appreciated by someone and your efforts have not gone unnoticed! Take pride in who you are and what you do. Happy International Women’s Day.

·         On 19 September 1893 New Zealand became the first country in the world to give women the right to vote.·         During International Women’s Year in 1975, IWD was given official recognition by the United Nations and was taken up by many governments.

 ·         International Women’s Day is marked by a national holiday in China, Armenia, Russia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Bulgaria, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Macedonia, Moldova, Mongolia, Tajikistan, Ukraine, Uzbekistan and Vietnam.

Strengthen Our Sisters Domestic Violence Shelter Needs to Raise $100,000

2 Feb

We received this letter from one of our supporters. If there is anyway that you can help please do. Please visit to contribute.

Strengthen Our Sisters, Inc

Breaking the Cycle

of Domestic Violence

Hewitt, New Jersey 07421

February 1, 2011

Dear Supporter:

Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Sandra Ramos and I am the founder of the first shelter for battered/homeless women and children in North America. The shelter started in my home in 1970 in which I shared with my three children. I am presently the Founder and Executive Director of Strengthen our Sisters in Passaic County. We are a 177 bed, nonprofit shelter organization providing housing and supportive services to battered/homeless women and children.

Strengthen Our Sisters is hopeful that your generosity will be contagious. Strengthen Our Sisters is currently in the process of purchasing the old Victorian home directly next door to the animal shelter project.  The reason I am contacting you is that many of our women and children escaping violence are in need of a safe home but, are unable to bring their pets with them to the shelter. Currently there are no shelters in the state of New Jersey that allows pets to live in a domestic violence/homeless shelter environment. Many of the families we serve are so in love with their animals that they remain in dangerous situations because they do not want to leave their pet behind. Others worry that their abuser will retaliate and harm the family pet once leaving the home which unfortunately is a common occurrence.

We have come up with a solution. As I stated above, we have recently been given the opportunity to purchase the older Victorian home directly next door to the animal shelter project in Wanaque, New Jersey. The owners of the animal shelter project are more than willing to help us in our mission to provide housing and care for the pets of families escaping domestic violence. We are in desperate need to raise $100,000 for the down payment in order to close on the sale of this home.  With some financial help we can secure a safe place not only for our families, but have a refuge available for their pet’s right next door.

Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. Also, if you could direct this email to any sponsors willing to aide us in this project it would be greatly appreciated. Please visit to contribute.

Thank you.

In struggle for a just society,
I remain,

Sandra Ramos
Founder and Executive Director

World Peace Begins At Home

Have you kissed dating good-bye?

27 Jan

According to a recent national survey by researchers at Rutgers University, 94 percent of singles stated that they want to marry their soul mate.  However, many of them acknowledged a lack of confidence in being able to achieve this goal. Below are two stories from individuals who obviously followed their hearts but forgot to consult their head in their relationships.

Listen to Marks’ story, he’s thirty-eight, and at the end of a three-year relationship:

I felt sorry for Jenell the first time we talked. She was going through a divorce from a real jerk who cheated on her. I wondered how any guy could do something like that to her; she was so beautiful and nice. She told me she had never been treated or loved in the ways that I took care of her. When I heard about her screwed-up family, I realized why she seemed to feel so “at home” with jerks. It felt great to give her love, something she said she really never had.  Around the fourth month of dating, however, Jenell became moody and picked fights with me, as if she wanted to be mad. I kept trying to make things better, and they were, for a while, but then she would go back into her shell. I should not have stayed with her so long. Why do I always get into the relationships where I am the giver?

Now, let’s listen to Tasha, twenty-eight, at the end of a five-year relationship:

The thing that impressed me most when I met Duane (thirty-one) was that he was so good with my six-year old son. He always talked to him, horsed around and played with him, and would even bring him surprises when he came to my apartment to see me. Being a single mother, I easily fell in love with the father my son never had. I was bothered by the way Duane became harsh sometimes with me, but I wrote if off as just a bad mood. And anyway, you’ve got to take the bad with the good. We married on our first anniversary of going out, but from that time on he was never the same. He had frequent rages and treated me just like his father had treated his mother. I never thought he would act like that; he had been so different before we married. How do I miss the signs of what he was going to be like in marriage?

Do these stories sound familiar? Do you know someone making the same mistakes? Is there really a way to follow your heart and include your head when it comes down to relationships? Yes, there is. I teach a singles class which is comprised of both male and female with ages ranging from 22 to 70 something.

A few months ago our discussion was fun, thought provoking and interactive. Everyone brought a unique perspective to the table.  The one thing we had in common was that we agreed that it is insanity to keep doing same thing and expecting different results. Everyone confessed that we really didn’t  know as much about relationships that we thought we did. Many people have learned about relationships from watching their parents or older siblings,  televison shows, reading novels and friends. Even with that, what made have worked for others, may not necessarily be right for you. To thine own self be true.
Grant it, we’ve all dated before, right? But that doesn’t mean that we knew what we were doing. If the truth be told just like Marc and Tasha many of us had no clue about dating. How many times have we chosen to date  people for all the wrong reasons.? For some of us it’s too many to count.

But does that mean that we have to kiss dating good-bye? No, it does not. It means that single adults need new information to get the kind of results they want. When you are exposing yourself to  information to help you establish a  foundation for healthy, balanced relationships you are preparing yourself with the tools need for a fulfilling marriage.

During our singles class with pen and paper in hand some of questions we answered and discussed ranged from: Do you enjoy being single? How have you chosen the people you’ve dated in the past? Would you do it that same way today? On a scale of 1 to 10 do you feel that you are prepared for marriage? to questions like How would you know if you are ready to date? Do you feel whole without a mate? Have you resolved past relationships hurts?

The answers to these questions were very interesting.  Questions like these makes you think. And while we haven’t touched the tip of the iceberg, everyone went away excited and looking forward to coming together again for more relationship empowerment.

Will 2011 be your year of breakthrough?

27 Jan

Do you need a breakthrough? A breakthrough is a type of release. It’s being able to remove yourself from that which has kept you in bondage. It’s seeing the strongholds in your life break loose. Breakthrough is a process. It’s normally not seen with the natural eyes. But you can feel it happening.

At times you may feel like you’ve moved two steps forward, and at the same time ten steps backwards. But when you’re in the process of breakthrough you see it as part of process. When it’s your season of breakthgough there is feeling of uneasiness. You start asking questions, ” “Why am I here” “What is my purpose” Why did I survive all that I’ve been through”.

There is a sense of discontentment, which is different from complaining and murmuring. There are some people who complain about where they are in life. They complain about this and they complain about that. They talk about what this person isn’t doing or that person isn’t doing. Yet, they want a breakthrough but won’t lift a finger to help themselves.

Neither are they willing to do anything about what they are complaining about. Do you know this kind of person? Being in relationships with people who murmur or who live in the sea of complaints can be very toxic. People like this will drain your spirit. And when it’s time for you to give birth to your destiny, you may not have the strength to P.U.S.H.

On the other hand when you have greatness inside of you there is no way that you can be content with mediocrity. Mediocrity is living below your known true potential. It’s allowing oneself to accept the norm. It’s never going beyond, but doing just enough to get by. It’s pleasing the status quo. Doing what everybody is doing, because it looks like the right thing to do. Mediocrity is the failure to do your best, live your best and be your best. It’s blaming other people for holding you down.

But when you are discontent that means that you want clarity. You desire to know the steps you need to take to make things happen. It means that you are willing to allow your steps to be divinely ordered. Anytime you say to yourself, “There has to me more to life than this”, that means more is looking for you.  It’s your wake up call to the potential for greatness on the inside of you.

What’s tugging at your heart?  When you are ready to answer that call you ask, seek and knock. Unfortunately, we can’t find that which we are not looking for. Doors that we don’t knock on won’t just open. We can’t obtain that which we don’t open our mouths and ask for.

I know that 2010 has been a rough year for all us. Job losses, lay-offs, foreclosures, illnesses and untimely accidents and deaths have taken a toll on many families in this community. But I am of the belief that 2011 can be one of the greatest years of your life. This is the year that you can go from the pit to the palace. 2011 can be your year of financial transition and breakthrough.

Do you remember Joseph in the Bible? Like Joseph, this could be your season of breakthrough. Joseph was only 17 years old when he was sold into slavery. He was 30 years old when he was promoted by Pharaoh. And he was in prison before that. This means that Joseph was in Potiphar’s house for 11 years prior to being falsely accused and thrown in prison.

What seemed like injustice was the very thing that caused Joseph to rise from the pit to the palace. He had to go through the process and make the transition in order to receive his promotion.

What have you gone through in 2010? What pit have you found yourself in? Was it the pit of unemployment, the pit of divorce, the pit of prison, the pit of addiction, sickness or death?

Whatever place you found yourself in last year was part of your process to greatness. If you desire breakthrough, prepare for the promise. You may have been through a lot but you are still here. As long as there is life in you, you can possess the promise.

How bad do you want it? Do not let what happened in 2010 keep you from what’s already yours in 2011. Refuse to allow anger or bitterness to stop the flow of your breakthrough. Forgive those who hurt you. In life people will hurt, betray, or disappoint you. What you do with your hurt is what matters.

Hurt people, hurt people. Wounded people leak issues. They bleed. They hurt. They damage others. But healthy people heal. Deal with the pits of 2010, and prepare for the palace of 2011.

Expect 2011 to be your year of BREAKTHROUGH!

You are not your story

27 Jan

I am writing today to encourage those who have experienced a traumatic event in their lives whether be it childhood abuse, sexual molestation, rape, family violence, abandonment or rejection. Regardless of  the inner turmoil and pain, sleepless nights, depression, fear, anxiety and stress, isolation, addiction, low-self-esteem, guilt and shame there is more to you than what you see. You are not your story.

In fact, what’s your story? We all have a story to tell. But you’re still not the sum of your past. You story will always be part of your history. You will always remember what you went through. But it will not always hurt.

Many of us are allowing the past to impact the present. We’ve survived, but we’re still suffering from an identity crisis. We’re afraid to move forward. Afraid to forgive. Afraid to become successful. Afraid to want more out of life, and expect more from people.  I’ve found that people will treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. If you don’t love yourself. Don’t expect people to love you. If you don’t honor and respect yourself. Guess what, neither will people. We attract to us what we are. When you truly love who you are with all of your shortcomings, flaws and weaknesses the world will have to adjust to who you are becoming.

What’s keeping you from coming into the full understanding of who you really are? We are all champions, born with “seeds of greatness”.

In just a few more days all the pain that you’ve been through won’t hurt anymore. You will live again. Laugh again. Love again. Dream again.

Reality is we’ve all been hurt. We’ve all been broken. We’ve all been wounded. We’ve all experienced some bleeding. But it’s time for the blood to dry up. Some of us have even been betrayed by those we love. Some of us have been used and abused. Some of us have been rejected by men. But the truth of the matter is, whenever you have been rejected by men, you have been CHOSEN by God.

He looks for those who would dare to say, “I’m hurting. I’m broken. I’m wounded”. So He can give you fresh start. He wants to help you begin again. He wants to wipe your slate clean and help you start over. He wants to prepare a table for you right in the presence of your enemies. Your enemies are watching and waiting for you to fall. But guess what? Those who didn’t want you to rise will have to see you rise once again. You’re coming out on top! Give your self a high-five and say, “See you at the top”.

When you don’t have anyone to encourage you, you have to learn how to encourage yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, “I still got it going on”.

It’s time for you to choose to get rid of the junk in your trunk, and finally become the whole woman soul, body and spirit you were meant to me. It’s time for you to close some chapters in your life and rewrite your story. What will be your new beginning?

It’s time for the QUEEEN in you to arise and take her rightful place. It’s time to break the cycle and reposition your soul (mind, will, emotions) to thrive.

Expecting to see you at the TOP!